Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay

Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

by Mira Kirshenbaum

Nikki’s Rating: 7 out of 10

7 Therapeutic Things about Mira Kirshenbaum’s Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay


1. Organization

Kirshenbaum organizes the book so that the most severe problems in a relationship are presented first. Obviously, this makes sense and therefore you can get validation quickly if you are in an unhealthy relationship.

2. Stories are Meaningful

Nothing is worse than a book that gives you examples and/or stories that are totally unrelatable.

3. Ending the relationship

Not seen as a failure but as a learning experience. Really can appreciate this. So many people view break-ups as relationship failures. However, both parties learned something. They learned what they can and cannot compromise on when it comes to a relationship, they learned more about themselves. Learning more about yourself and what makes you happy is a key component in living a fulfilled life.

4. No Blame

Kirshenbaum doesn’t usually place blame on one partner. She does a very good job of portraying that in many circumstances, couples are just not a good fit for each other. Doesn’t mean that one partner is wrong and the other one is right, just means that they don’t mesh well. No one is to blame for that.

5. Realistic

I really hate self-help books that are like, “if you do this, your life will be all better. You will be forever happy and healthy.” Yeah, that’s bullshit. Yes, learning new skills, wellness tools, etc. can improve your life. However, every person is uniquely different with different wants, needs, experiences, and personality. There is no technique, diet, exercise routine, meditation style or way of living that will work for every person. There is no magic wand to create a perfect life. Books that claim that are just selling you something.

6. Good Writing

Kirshenbaum keeps things clear, concise, and orderly. Very easy guide to read and apply.

7. Hope

This book ends with a chapter on “How to Move Forward.” I like this because it leaves you with a feeling of hope. Ending on a good note.

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